Soulfit Women Sisterhood

For those of you who know me, you know I love and believe in community!

If we are just meeting, so glad you have landed here on my virtual home on the web.

Have questions about anything you have read on my site?  email me at dana@soulfitwomen.com or submit questions here.

This past Fall/Spring I’ve been working on new creations and now they are beginning to bloom:-) as we head into Summer.

Warm heart felt welcome for….

“Soulfit Stories” is one of the ways I wish to comtribute to the lives of women.  My intention is to bring women together who are willing to share their journey and life lessons so we all can heal our hearts and empower one another!

Can I get a “Woot “Woot!?”

Read more about why this is important to me and how you can help spread the word here!

I would like to give

 

Join the soulfit women sisterhood

Join the soulfit women sisterhood

 a huge shout out

to Jen for helping me create the sisterhood forum!  She has mad skillz:-)

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Give her a “Woot Woot!”

and a “Woot “Woot!” for all the women who will find peace of mind, comfort and understanding inside our sisterhood community!

 

give yourself a hug from me

give yourself a hug from me

Your Soulfit Sister,

Dana

Glad This Year’s Over? Create a Happier Life with 3 Practices!

If you have experienced excess stress, strained relationships, or life crises recently, you may be feeling like hiding under a rock as you end this tumultuous year.   Rather than allowing the New Year to be a reminder of all the things that went wrong this past year, embrace the opportunity to put the past behind you and create a life with intent instead of expectation.

In order to close one chapter of your life and start another in a positive way, you must let go of any negativity about the past that you have  been holding onto.   Avoid thinking that nothing will change or that things will always be “the same”.

What happened is in the past and what lays before you is opportunity. 

The key is to set your thinking on how things will be better this year and beyond.  By focusing your thinking on what you want, as opposed to what you don’t want, you’ll be able to see past setbacks in a different light.  Seeing a setback as a challenge that you can overcome, even if it takes some time, will allow you to continue moving forward, even when things aren’t going your way.

When you release the past and things you cannot control, you free yourself to move forward without becoming the victim. Even if something hurt you and even if people were unfair to you or treated you wrongly, you have a choice.

 

I want you to declare that today is a new beginning for you!  Here are three healing steps to promote lasting happiness and to stop you from hurting.

1. Let go of the past

You must emotionally release people, situations or conditions in order to bring healing into your own soul, body, and life.   Often, we think we want freedom from our problems when in fact we give life to our problems.  By questioning our beliefs and turning our backs on these perceived problems, we can make them go away and dissolve.

Daily meditate upon and speak forth these words:  “I now let go of everything and everybody of the past or present that has caused discomfort in, through or round about me, we all go free to greater wholeness.”

2. Forgive yourself and forgive others.

It is easier to forgive those you may condemn, resent, even hate, when you remember this: They have not really failed you.  They have not even let you down.  They may have stumbled while crossing your path.  In reality, they are sons of God who temporarily lost their way.  Your progress has not been hindered.  They cannot keep your good from you.

They crossed your pathway by divine appointment, even though they seemed to hurt you for awhile.  When people bother you, it is because their souls are trying to get your divine attention and your blessing.  Give them that and they will no longer bother you.  They will fade out of your life and find their good elsewhere.

Daily meditate upon and speak forth these words:  “All that has offended me, I forgive.  Whatever has made me bitter, resentful, unhappy, I forgive.  Within and without, I forgive.  Things past, things present, things future, I forgive.”

3. Set an Intention

An intention is a positive statement that is written in the present tense that inspires you to create and complete proactive behaviors.   Focus on the result you want and take appropriate actions that will lead to results.

Intentions promote forward momentum and can keep you from slipping back into “bad habits.”  Speaking your intentions every day will lead to less expectation because you are taking an active role in how your life plays out instead of allowing life to just “happen.” The results will be determined by you and not by anyone else.

Even the happiest people have challenges.   Just like you, at times I have struggled and have felt beaten down.  The difference is that I get back up again and focus on solutions rather than problems.

Your Soulfit Sista-

Dana

Bring Yourself into the Present Moment

The point of peace and power is only in the present moment.  After all, this is the only moment that ever is.  The past happened in the present moment and the future happens in the present moment.  Give yourself the gift of true intimacy with yourself.

Enjoy this meditation I created and if it resonates with you, make it a part of your daily routine.

Breathing in, I rest my body

Breathing out, my heart opens

Dwelling in the present moment, I embrace my essential nature

 

Breathing in, I rest my body

Breathing out, illusions dissolve

Dwelling in the present moment, I embrace my divinity

repeat total of three times

Your soulfit sista,

Dana

Do you want a hug?

One of my favorite ways to nurture the relationship I have with myself and to journey inward, is to give myself a hug.  

When I was going through a tough time as a teenager, one day I thought, “Maybe I should give myself a hug.”

So I did and I felt better.

When we take time to nurture the relationship we have with ourselves, we stop looking to others to feel better.

When is the last time you nurtured yourself with some tender lovin’ care?  Do you feel connected with yourself?

Look in the mirror and say “I love you (fill in the blank, gorgeous)!

Say this three times and give yourself a big hug!  Make this a part of your day, everyday:-)

Strong Women vs. Women of Strength

Let’s become more complete today with some of the relationships in our lives.

Today is a gift. This present moment is what we have now.

Don’t let words of love and appreciation go unspoken.

Let those who have impacted your life in a meaningful way know how you feel.

I share this lovely poem with you today.

A strong woman works out every day to keep her body in shape, but a woman of strength kneels in prayer to keep her soul in shape.

A strong woman isn’t afraid of anything, but a woman of strength shows courage in the midst of her fear.

A strong woman won’t let anyone get the best of her, but a woman of strength gives the best of her to everyone.

A strong woman makes mistakes and avoids the same in the future; a woman of strength realizes life’s mistakes can also be God’s blessings and capitalizes on them.

A strong woman walks sure footedly, but a woman of strength knows God will catch her when she falls.

A strong woman wears the look of confidence on her face, but a woman of strength wears grace.

A strong woman has faith that she is strong enough for the journey, but a woman of strength has faith that it is in the journey that she will become strong.

Now pass this along to all the women of strength you know!

44% of sexual assult victims are under 18

 The reality of sexual assault and rape is heartbreaking.  One in fours girls and one in six boys will be sexually assaulted before their eighteenth birthday.  It is estimated that there are approximately 39 million people in America that have been a victim of sexual assault in their childhood.

The first step to improving these unsettling statistics is to educate parents, children, and victims of child abuse about warning signs of abuse.  It’s important to talk about what to do after a sexual assault and that there are support systems available to advocate and help survivors deal with the trauma of a sexual assault.


 

Hope vs. Certainty

What we feel is not based on our experience but on our interpretation of the experience. You are always in control of how you feel. Nothing controls you but you.

    1. Think about something you would like to have happen in the future and hope it will happen.  Close your eyes and notice how it feels to hope. Do you see two different possibilities – having it work out and not work out.
    2. Open your eyes, shake your body out a little and get rid of that hoping feeling.  Now close your eyes and think about this same thing you would like to have happen.  Notice how it feels and how this is different than hoping.
    3.  Open your eyes. What was the difference? You just controlled your emotions!