Embrace Your Emotions

“This being human is a guest house.  Every morning a new arrival.  A joy, a depressionA joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. 

Welcome and entertain them all!  Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still, treat each guest honorably.  He may be clearing you out for some new delight. 

The dark thoughts, the shame, the malice, meet them at the door laughing, and invite them in.  Be grateful for whoever comes because each has been sent as a guide from beyond.” -Rumi


Allowing all of your emotions to flow through you is both beautiful and a gift to yourself.  Embracing your hurt and pain gives birth to joy and sets you free!

What do these words by Rumi mean to you?


Your SoulFit Sista,


8 Steps to Access Internal Freedom

Discovering that my body speaks to me and is always leading me to my higher good is like winning the lottery.  After I graduated from high school, I spent a few months in Australia.  This was the first time in my life that I wasn’t surrounded with constant chaos.

 Upon returning home, I went with a friend to a relative’s celebration for joining the army.  While I was there, I began to feel deeply ill and light-headed and like I was going to vomit. I told a long-time family acquaintance that I wasn’t feeling well and that I would have to leave.  As I began to get closer to my car, I noticed I was feeling better, and by the time I got into the car, I was feeling 100% fine again!

Our bodies are always giving us signals to guide us away from people, places and things that don’t serve us and lead us to our highest good.

Here is an exercise to help you gain better communication with your body, build your intuition and trust yourself.  Using your body as a compass, you can navigate through any difficult situation on your way to greater fulfillment and success in life.

  1. Sit down, close your eyes and take three deep breaths from your diaphragm.
  2. Think about something you love.
  3. Fully experience what it is you love. Say, “I love……
  4. Notice the signs you receive when you tell yourself a truth. Do you see an image? What physical sensations do you feel? Do you feel relaxed? What do you see, hear, smell and/or taste?
  5. Now get up and walk around for a few minutes to clear your experience.
  6. After a few minutes sit down, close your eyes and take three deep breaths.
  7. Tell yourself that you hate what you just told yourself you loved. In other words, tell yourself a lie.
  8. Notice the signs your body gives you when you hear the lie. Do you see an image? What physical sensations do you feel? Do you feel heavy? What do you see, hear, smell and/or taste?

Practice and have fun with this:-)

Your soulfit siser,


What can we do?

I believe in the united power we have to make this world a better place. A week ago today, my heart broke open hearing about the devastation at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Connecticut. And like many of you, my heart went out to these children, teachers and all those affected by this tragedy. I’ve been praying for all those affected and I will continue to do so.

When something devastating happens, we may feel helpless and like there is nothing we can do. Sending love, light and words of prayer are so powerful and does so much for all of us as a whole.

Feel all your emotions. Feel the anger but don’t let it get the best of you. Don’t let hate consume you. Have compassion and send love and light to all those involved.

Tell those close to you know how much they mean to you because in an instant everything can change. It all can be gone.

I’m thinking about you, all the families in Connecticut and all those affected. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

Share with me your thoughts.  Share with your family and friends and join me in sending love, light and words of prayer.

Your SoulFitSista,


10 treats for me on Halloween

Halloween is a holiday with ancient roots that had a much greater meaning than the costume filled holiday that we know today

Around 2,000 years ago, the Celts, who lived in what is now the United Kingdom, Ireland, and northern France, had a festival commemorating the end of the year. Their New Year was November 1, and this festival was called Samhain, pronounced sow-en. The end of their year signaled the end of summer, the end of the harvest season, and the beginning winter.

They believed the night before the New Year, that the wall between the living and the dead was open.

Samhain was considered a magical holiday.

Many families will be taking their little ones trick or treating.  Maybe you will be going to a Halloween party?

Or maybe you will do what I’ll do and go over to a friends house and pass treats out to all the delicious children dressed up for a night of trick or treat!  Our daughters are best friends.  The dads are hitting the streets with our girls and we are dishing out the good stuff:-)

Trick or Treat?  What’s it’s going to be?

Do you trick yourself into believing reasons why you can’t have more fun?

Do you trick yourself into staying quiet when your soul whispers are nudging you to speak up?

Do you trick yourself into saying, “Yes” when inside your head you said, “No?”

Do you trick yourself into rejecting compliments from others?

Do you trick yourself into withholding sexual pleasure from yourself?

Treats for me on Halloween

  1. Embrace my inner darling and dress up!  She’s excited!  We’re both excited!
  2. Help out at Autumn’s class Halloween party!
  3. Play Halloween makeup artist to Autumn and Charlie!
  4. Pass out treats to the kids dressed up for Halloween fun!
  5. Accept and receive compliments!
  6. Enjoy being with my family and friends!
  7. Smile at a stranger!
  8. Write myself a love letter!
  9. Howl at the moon!
  10. Have fun!



For me, Halloween is a day for fun!

What do you love about Halloween?

What tricks have you played on yourself?

What treats will you give yourself?


Your SoulFit Sista,






Develop the Eye of the Tiger

Do you have the Eye of the Tiger?  Those who have achieved great goals, have the Eye of the Tiger.

Did my time, took my chances… went the distance, now I’m back on my feet, just a man and his will to survive.

So many times, it happens too fast, you change your passion for glory. Don’t lose your grip on the dreams of the past. You must fight just to keep them alive.

Do you have the Eye of the Tiger when it comes to taking the necessary steps to achieve the results you want in all areas of your life?

Develop the Eye of the Tiger and stay focused on the end result.

Don’t let anybody knock you off track!


The idea of giving up can never be considered and you must be willing to do whatever it takes!

If you will commit to develop the Eye of the Tiger, you will become unstoppable!

Your SoulFit Sista,


You Have Unlimited Power Within You!

An Oriental fable tells of the ancient gods trying to decide where to hide the power of the universe so that man would not find it and use it destructively.

One god said, “Let us hide it on top of the highest mountain.” But they decided that man would eventually scale the highest mountain and find this great power.

Another god said, “Let us hide this power at the bottom of the sea.” Again it was decided that man would eventually explore the depths of the sea.

Still a third god suggested, “Let us hide the great power of the universe in the middle of the Earth.” But they realized that man would someday conquer that region, too.


Finally, the wisest god of all said, “I know what to do. Let us hide the great power of the universe within man. He will never think to look for it there!”

According to this old fable, they did hide the power of the universe within man, and it is still there.

“Looks like they were right, so many people never realize that the great power of the universe – the power to destroy or heal, have lack or abundance – lies within them.”

You have unlimited ability to heal your life and experience more joy. Start by being mindful of your words and connect with the love in your heart.

Your soulfit sista,


5 Powerful Ways to Love Yourself Now

 I have always considered myself a loving person.  When I was 11yrs. old, I vowed to myself that I would always have an open heart and be loving towards others.  I was determined not to let all the unpleasant experiences get the best of me and become a sour grape, even though I enjoyed eating them:-)

It wasn’t too long ago when I realized I was being loving towards others but I wasn’t being loving towards myself.  I continually beat myself up. Can you relate?

“I’m not good enough!”

“How could I do that again?”

“I’m stupid!”

“What is wrong with me?”

I did love myself and felt love towards myself.  I was amazed about how long I’ve gone with not expressing self love.  I didn’t even know how to start.  As I learned,  there are many ways to show love towards yourself, I have found these five to be the foundation.  I learned this the hard way and this is my gift to you!

Give yourself permission!

The best gift a woman can give herself to feel free is to give herself permission.  Ask yourself, “What have I been denying myself?  Asking this question gives the energy for answers to serve your higher good.

Don’t dismiss what comes up for you.  If you are like many women, you have been dismissing yourself for far too long.  The biggest way you can give yourself permission is to say, “No.”

Saying, “No,” to someone else is saying, “Yes,” to you!  This creates the space for you to allow yourself to claim your best by giving yourself permission.  When you are in this place you are most alive.

What will you give yourself permission for? Will you start pursuing that dream that you gave up on?  Will you sleep in?  Will you leave that relationship?  Will you allow yourself to try something new and be willing to suck at it?  Will you give yourself permission to be yourself?

Turn love on!

Whatever you do and wherever you go, go there with love. Turning love on is the only way to fulfill your destiny and to help heal the world.  Love takes away all thoughts of destruction, as it brings all things into harmony.

Practice dwelling on the thought of ”divine love.” This will awaken healing powers within you that have gone dormant and turn love on.  Filling your mind with things you love and having a compassionate heart will aid in resolving conflict and offer you supreme protection.  In the end, love wins.

Practice daily gratitude!

Awake each day and be present with the gift that is you! If you haven’t already, adopt the practice of daily gratitude to raise your personal vibration and heal your soul.  Connect with gratitude that dwells within you by seeing yourself with loving eyes.

Before jumping out of bed in the morning, take a few deep breaths and allow gratitude to intertwine with your inner body.  If you become emotional and even cry, don’t resist or think something is wrong.  You have become an expression for   gratitude in your life.  Next, write 10 things you are grateful for in gratitude in your life.  Giving loving attention to the good things in your life brings more pleasant experiences to you!  Every evening thereafter, read your list and try to add ten additional items or experiences to your list.

Embracing an attitude of gratitude keeps you grounded in the present moment.  It allows you to focus on what is good in your life.  It keeps you from the cycle of dwelling on a past that you cannot change and from fearing the unknown of the future that may never come.   Many people find themselves living in this chaotic cycle. The only moment is now. When you find yourself visiting this cycle, you will know this is a clue to return to gratitude.

Forgive yourself!

Taking personal responsibility means that we acknowledge that we create our own reality by how we choose to process the behaviors of others.  Allow yourself the space to see the truth in each perceived hurtful situation.

Whatever people do, think, feel or say about you, don’t take it personally.  They are dealing with their own feelings and beliefs.  They believe a painful story that is not true.   By developing this heightened awareness you set yourself free from resentment, anger, emotional turmoil, ill health and unnecessary suffering.

Be kind to yourself.  You did not build up resentment and anger overnight.   As you begin to allow others to be, do, act and feel with the knowledge that it has nothing to do with you, you forgive effortlessly.   You begin to see that there is really nothing to forgive.

Practice your forgiveness muscle with this daily meditation:  “All that has offended me, I forgive.  Whatever has made me bitter, resentful, unhappy, I forgive.  Within and without, I forgive.  Things past, things present, things future, I forgive.”

Acknowledge yourself!

Yes, I want you to give yourself a pat on the back that is long overdue.  To be honest with you, this use to be the hardest thing for me to do.  I would draw a complete blank..  My inability to acknowledge myself kept me in the cycle of beating myself up and feeling powerless.  I would think about the possibilities.

“What could I acknowledge myself for today?  What could I acknowledge myself for in my life?”

I was devaluing myself and keeping myself in a small place.  I would tell myself, “It’s not a big deal.  I’m just doing the right thing.”

The truth is not everyone breaks the unhealthy family cycles. I acknowledge myself for being drug free and choosing to live a better life.  When I adopted my cousin, I would say, “Anyone would have done it.  I’m just doing the right thing.”  The truth is not everyone would have stepped up.  I acknowledge myself for being brave and stepping up.”

Acknowledgments erode away the dis-empowering affect of negative self-talk- Rhonda Britten

The practice of acknowledging “me” daily has changed my life.  I would not be here writing and you would not be reading this because I would be too busy devaluing what I have to say!

Acknowledgments are all about you.  Please accept this.  You deserve it!  You have put yourself down for far too long.  Please don’t dismiss something because you think it is too small or not good enough.  Write down any new “ah ha” moments, thoughts, awareness’s or behaviors you have. Small steps add up to those huge steps.  Remember, it’s all about building yourself up and connecting with the parts of yourself you have denied.  You will become more “You” and your life will never be the same.

Are you willing to acknowledge even the tiniest step?

Are you willing to acknowledge yourself for reading this?


Your SoulFit Sista,


Are You Facing Adversity? Draw Near to Dragonfly

There is a dragonfly fluttering outside my kitchen window (at this moment) as I sit and write playing catch up in the Ultimate Blog Challenge.   I am so filled will awe and appreciation for  being on the path that  gives life to my purpose here on Earth.  Every time I see a dragonfly, I  am encouraged  and feel acknowledged from the source that feeds us all,  that I am in alignment  with my purpose and with fulfillment of divine  will.

My first experience with dragonfly was in Sedona, Arizona,  in the  spring of 2007. I was taking a much needed time-out for myself.  My mom  had recently passed away, and this led  me on the path to take better  care of myself, and to do the healing work I  currently do.

Before my magical 5-day stay in Sedona, I had never even  heard of a  dragonfly!  And now they were  all around me.  From my first drawing   from a deck of Indian Medicine Cards,   the dragonfly spoke to me.  As I   read dragonfly wisdom, it confirmed my inner truth and helped me to  overcome  adversity in my lifeIn this moment I  could see the gift that was mine — being able to see past the illusions of my  difficult circumstances. I felt more aligned and centered with my  purpose.

The dragonfly  teaches us how to balance emotion and mental clarity  and control.  Dragonfly medicine works in a two-year  cycle.  If the  dragonfly has come into  your life, you can expect change within this  time period.  Dragonfly people need to honor their health by  spending  time outdoors in the sunlight near streams or lakes. The dragonfly also teaches us to see through our own illusions.

The dragonfly is a reminder that when our deeper thoughts rise  to the surface we must pay attention. There  are lessons to be learned.  We are also reminded that what we think is   actually directly proportionate to what we “see on the surface.” In   short, our thoughts (even the deeper ones that we might not be as much  in touch  with as we are with our conscious thoughts) are responsible  for what we see in  our lives — in our physical surroundings.

The dragonfly gives us a very powerful meditation tool. Close your eyes and focus on a thought,  allowing it to rise to the  surface of your mind’s ocean.  Can you see that thought float lightly up  to  the water’s surface?  Now visualize that  thought moving across  that water.

This exercise is useful when we  want to visualize positive outcomes in a situation.  We see the thought of  hope happily moving across an  ocean of peace (peaceful mind) and gliding to a  perfect outcome.

Breaks illusions,
Brings visions of power,
No need to prove it,
Now is the hour!
Know it, believe it,
Great Spirit intercedes,
Feeding you, blessing you,
Filling all your needs.
 When the dragonfly appears, transformation will  begin. 
 At times you  may feel like you  are fire-walking your way through life (dragonflies  are really mini dragons  after all!), and yet what is emerging from  within you is a sense of your own inner power and faith in a Higher  Power that no one can ever take from you!   You are in the  process of coming to know and understand who you truly  are and  connecting with the vast source of power and energy that was given to   you by Spirit at the time your Soul came into being. 
This power has  grown within you as you have  journeyed through space and time.  Now is the time for it to be claimed as your own in this life so  you may step forth renewed as the powerful Soul that you are!
Your SoulFit Sista,

3 Steps to Enhancing Your Belief in Yourself Through Tough Times

Your mindset will determine your level of success, or lack thereof.  A positive mindset can empower you to abolish hurdles before they become too challenging.  It may be difficult to believe in yourself when everything around you seems to be crumbling into pieces, but keeping faith is the only way to make it through the hard times and see yourself clear to better days.

Try these strategies to help you remain steadfast when you’re feeling the pressure of tough times:

1. Reflect on the past

 Surely you’ve encountered seemingly insurmountable situations in the past. How have you succeeded in the most unpleasant scenarios? Clearly, your ability to overcome these situations speaks loudly for your strength and abilities.

In some situations, you may be able to emulate your past solutions by adapting them to fit your current situation. Other times, you’ll be able to learn what not to do from past trials and tribulations.  The past does not have to dictate your future.

2. Act immediately

 Rather than retreating into your personal cocoon when a situation becomes intimidating, address it immediately. The longer you allow a situation to sit without attention, the more urgent it will become.

Avoid cornering yourself with urgency by creating a proactive plan now. Or better yet, have a just-in-case plan before the event ever happens.  It’s okay to take a few hours to create a plan of attack. But if you’re still brainstorming weeks from today, you may be stalling.

Only you can be the source of a solution.  You are in charge of managing your life and ensuring its successTake pride in this power. After all, you’re free — no one commands you! Your life is what you make it.  And you can use your power to start off on the right foot each and every day.

3. Believe it

You will make it through. You’ve found your way out of a tough situation before. You’ll do it now, and again sometime in the future.  There is always a way to get your head above the water — always and to thrive in life.  You’ll get better at it once you seek to gain a new perspective.

As Bernice Johnson Reagon once said, “Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.”

Now is as good a time as any to show yourself what you’re made of. Confirm to yourself that you’re as strong and tenacious as you suspect yourself to be.

Everyone encounters hard times — it’s simply a part of life.  And a very major part of how you will address these hard times is dependent on your mindset and your ability to believe in yourself, even throughout the toughest of times.

Your mindset can be your best friend or your worst enemy.

If you allow your mindset to shift into negative territory, you’ll end up with negative results.  Remember, you attract the energy you exude!

Take a moment and think of a time when you shifted your perspective on an otherwise disastrous situation, and everything worked out beautifully.  Is there a challenge you are facing now that by shifting your perspective can shine a light on a solution you may have overlooked?

Your soulfit sista,


Number One Best Practice to Moving Beyond “Stuck”

This week I have spoken with many women who say  that they feel  “stuck” and that they don’t know what to do.

When I ask them to  describe it, there was a  common thread.  Each woman said they felt   something heavy on their heart.  And a  few of them said that they were  unaware of this.  I told each woman to open up their hearts to the  gift  of release.

If you are feeling “stuck” in any area in your  life, first I  want you to know that “stuck” is an illusion.

“Stuck”  only exists when we think of the past or jump into the  future.  Stuck  implies not moving forward and judging where you are now  based on a projection  into the future.  Be mindful and  conscious of  the moment with each breath you take.

Relax!  And affirm  peace.   The number one best  practice for never being stuck again is to use  your gift of release.   Your own gift of release is available on the   mental, emotional and physical planes of life.   The act of release  helps you to become an open, receptive channel  through which the  intelligence of the universe can flow to you to cleanse your  life of  worn-out relationships and conditions and make a way for new and expanded good in your life.

Affirming release  is the best medicine I know to heal emotional scars and move beyond being  stuck.

Write  these words of release on a card and carry it with you.  It  would be a good idea to also place another  card by your bed.  Read it  upon waking up  and before you go to bed.  This is the affirmation  I  used when my life was not where I wanted it to be.  It changed my life.

“I Let Go Of Everything And Everybody  That Is No Longer A Part  Of The Divine Plan Of My Life.  I Now Expand Quickly Into The Divine  Plan Of  My Life, Where All Conditions Are Permanently Perfect.”

Your soulfit sista,